Who Am I?
No, this is not a trick question. I used to ponder on this question daily ……. just soul searching on finding the ME.
We often grow up with ideas of who we want to be……..influenced by our parents, our teachers, peers and the surrounding environment. We mould ourselves to that image equating it to our Ideal Self in search of our identity, constantly re-considering ourselves and revolving around who we strive to be.
Sometimes, when we face a major change in our lives that affects us severely, we may be confronted with these thoughts – Who am I? What am I doing here?
Ever felt that? I have and most constantly in the last ten years or so of my entire life. When this happens, it can sometimes bring down our self esteem, or confidence and may affect how much we value ourselves.
So how do we overcome this matter and who is the Real You?
I do not claim to be an expert on this subject. But what I have discovered is that we need to practise wisdom to engage life as we would like to live it, not how others perceive it to be and certainly not how we want others to perceive us to be.
- Be deeply aware of your own thoughts, emotions, voice and actions.
- Learn about yourself – get to know your hopes, your fears, your dreams. What makes you happy? What can you accept in your life?
- Spare some time daily to analyze your day. How did you react to it and was the outcome acceptable by you? Was it who you want to be in handling the daily affairs of your life? If not, what can you do to change it for the better? I personally find the best time is before bedtime where I will calm my mind and go through my day to see what made me happy and what was not so conducive to being my ideal self and how I can change matters to become my happy ideal self.
- Next, figure out what you can do to change or improve yourself and start making positive affirmations to do so.
- Write your positive affirmations down and read them daily to remind yourself, if you need to.
- Focus on yourself and the changes to becoming YOU. Don’t focus on things you do not want. Focus your thoughts on things and changes you want positively.
- Find your inner strength and will power to master your mind to do things that will change you to become the “YOU” you want to be and the life you wish to have.
- Last but not least, cultivate peace and tranquility to rectify your emotion and habits, so that you may let go of anger, hate and greed. This bit is the hardest to do but with tiny reinforced steps every day, it is achievable.